אֲמַר לֵיהּ: אִימָּא קַיֶּימֶת? אֲמַר לֵיהּ: אִימָּא קַיֶּימֶת? אֲמַר לֵיהּ: אַבָּא קַיָּים?! אֲמַר לֵיהּ לְשַׁמָּעֵיהּ: חֲלוֹץ לִי מִנְעָלַי, וְהוֹלֵךְ אַחֲרַי כֵּלַי לְבֵית הַמֶּרְחָץ.

Not wishing to deliver unfortunate news, Rav said to him: Is my mother still alive? In other words, why do you not ask me about my mother, who is your sister, whether she is still among the living? Rabbi Ḥiyya said to him: Is your mother still alive? Rav said to him: Is my father still alive? Rabbi Ḥiyya understood from Rav’s failure to provide him with straight answers that both his brother and his sister had passed away. said to his servant: Remove my shoes as a sign of mourning, and afterward carry my clothes behind me, as I am going to the bathhouse.

שְׁמַע מִינָהּ תְּלָת: שְׁמַע מִינָהּ: אָבֵל אָסוּר בִּנְעִילַת הַסַּנְדָּל; וּשְׁמַע מִינָהּ: שְׁמוּעָה רְחוֹקָה אֵינָהּ נוֹהֶגֶת אֶלָּא יוֹם אֶחָד; וּשְׁמַע מִינָהּ: מִקְצָת הַיּוֹם כְּכוּלּוֹ.

The Gemara comments: Learn three halakhot from this incident with Rabbi Ḥiyya. Learn from this that a mourner is prohibited from wearing shoes, and therefore Rabbi Ḥiyya removed his shoes upon hearing of the deaths of his brother and sister. And learn from this that in the case of distant tidings of a relative’s death, the mourning rites apply for only one day and no more. And learn from this that the legal status of part of the day is like that of an entire day, as immediately following the removal of his shoes, Rabbi Ḥiyya went to the bathhouse.

רַבִּי חִיָּיא – לְחוּד, רַבִּי אֲחִיָּיה – לְחוּד.

In any case, Rabbi Ḥiyya observed only one day of mourning after receiving a belated report of his siblings’ passing, in contrast to Rabbi Aḥiyya, who observed seven and thirty days. The Gemara’s question assumes that Rabbi Ḥiyya and Rabbi Aḥiyya are the same person. The Gemara answers: This is not difficult, for Rabbi Ḥiyya is a discrete person and Rabbi Aḥiyya is a discrete person; despite the similarity between their names, these are two different people.

אָמַר רַבִּי יוֹסֵי בַּר אָבִין: שָׁמַע שְׁמוּעָה קְרוֹבָה בָּרֶגֶל, וּלְמוֹצָאֵי הָרֶגֶל נַעֲשֵׂית רְחוֹקָה – עוֹלֶה לוֹ, וְאֵינוֹ נוֹהֵג אֶלָּא יוֹם אֶחָד. תָּנֵי רַבִּי אַדָּא דְּמִן קֵסָרִי קַמֵּיהּ דְּרַבִּי יוֹחָנָן: שָׁמַע שְׁמוּעָה קְרוֹבָה בְּשַׁבָּת, וּלְמוֹצָאֵי שַׁבָּת נַעֲשֵׂית רְחוֹקָה – אֵינוֹ נוֹהֵג אֶלָּא יוֹם אֶחָד.

§ Rabbi Yosei bar Avin said: If one received recent tidings of a relative’s death during a Festival, when it is prohibited to mourn, and after the Festival they became distant tidings, as after the Festival thirty days had already elapsed since the relative’s passing, the Festival counts for him toward the number of days that make it a belated report. And, consequently, after the Festival he observes only one day of mourning. Rabbi Adda of Caesarea taught a baraita before Rabbi Yoḥanan: If one received recent tidings of a relative’s passing on Shabbat, and at the conclusion of Shabbat it became distant tidings, he observes only one day of mourning.

קוֹרֵעַ אוֹ אֵינוֹ קוֹרֵעַ? רַבִּי מָנִי אָמַר: אֵינוֹ קוֹרֵעַ. רַבִּי חֲנִינָא אָמַר: קוֹרֵעַ. אָמַר לֵיהּ רַבִּי מָנִי לְרַבִּי חֲנִינָא: בִּשְׁלָמָא לְדִידִי, דְּאָמִינָא אֵינוֹ קוֹרֵעַ, הַיְינוּ דְּלָא אִיכָּא אֲבֵילוּת שִׁבְעָה. אֶלָּא לְדִידָךְ דְּאָמְרַתְּ קוֹרֵעַ, קְרִיעָה בְּלֹא שִׁבְעָה מִי אִיכָּא?

§ The Gemara asks: Upon receiving a belated report of a close relative’s passing, does one rend his garment or does he not rend it? Rabbi Mani said: He does not rend it, whereas Rabbi Ḥanina said: He does rend it. Rabbi Mani said to Rabbi Ḥanina: Granted, it makes sense that according to my position this is consistent, as I say that he does not rend his garment, and this is because there is no seven- day period of mourning. But according to you, who says that he does rend his garment, is there rending without a seven- day period of mourning afterward?

וְלָא? וְהָתַנְיָא אִיסִי אֲבוּהּ דְּרַבִּי זֵירָא, וְאָמְרִי לָהּ אֲחוּהּ דְּרַבִּי זֵירָא קַמֵּיהּ דְּרַבִּי זֵירָא: מִי שֶׁאֵין לוֹ חָלוּק לִקְרוֹעַ, וְנִזְדַּמֵּן לוֹ בְּתוֹךְ שִׁבְעָה – קוֹרֵעַ; לְאַחַר שִׁבְעָה – אֵינוֹ קוֹרֵעַ.

The Gemara asks: Is there not? But isn’t it taught in a baraita reported by Isi, father of Rabbi Zeira, and some say it was taught by the brother of Rabbi Zeira before Rabbi Zeira: If at first one did not have his own garment to rend, and he acquired one during the seven- day period of mourning, he should rend it then. But if he acquired it only after the seven- day period of mourning, he does not rend it.

עָנֵי רַבִּי זֵירָא בַּתְרֵיהּ: בַּמֶּה דְּבָרִים אֲמוּרִים – בַּחֲמִשָּׁה מְתֵי מִצְוָה, אֲבָל עַל אָבִיו וְעַל אִמּוֹ – קוֹרֵעַ וְהוֹלֵךְ!

Rabbi Zeira explained the baraita after him, filling in a missing element: In what case is this statement that one does not rend his garment after the seven-day period of mourning said? In the case of the other five close relatives over whose death it is a mitzva to mourn, i.e., son, daughter, brother, sister, and spouse. But for one’s father or mother, one continues to be obligated to rend his garment if he receives the garment after the seven-day mourning period as well. This apparently contradicts Rabbi Mani’s statement that there is no rending without seven days of mourning.

כִּי תַּנְיָא הַהִיא – לִכְבוֹד אָבִיו וְאִמּוֹ.

The Gemara answers: When that baraita is taught, it is referring to a symbolic act meant to honor his father or mother. It is for one’s father or mother that he must rend his garment, even if it becomes available only after the seven-day period of mourning. Essentially, however, the obligation to rend one’s garments applies only when it is followed by a seven-day period of mourning.

תָּנוּ רַבָּנַן: כָּל הָאָמוּר בְּפָרָשַׁת כֹּהֲנִים, שֶׁכֹּהֵן מִיטַּמֵּא לָהֶן – אָבֵל מִתְאַבֵּל עֲלֵיהֶן. וְאֵלּוּ הֵן: אִשְׁתּוֹ, אָבִיו, וְאִמּוֹ, אֶחָיו, וַאֲחוֹתוֹ, בְּנוֹ, וּבִתּוֹ. הוֹסִיפוּ עֲלֵיהֶן אָחִיו וַאֲחוֹתוֹ הַבְּתוּלָה מֵאִמּוֹ, וַאֲחוֹתוֹ נְשׂוּאָה בֵּין מֵאָבִיו בֵּין מֵאִמּוֹ.

§ The Sages taught: With regard to all of the relatives mentioned in the Torah in the passage referring to priests, for which a priest becomes impure, a mourner must mourn for them. And they are: His wife, his father, and his mother, his brother and his unmarried sister from the same father, his son, and his daughter. The Sages added other relatives to this list: His maternal brother and his unmarried sister from the same mother, and his married sister, whether from the same father or from the same mother. One mourns for these relatives, although a priest would not become impure for them.

וּכְשֵׁם שֶׁמִּתְאַבֵּל עֲלֵיהֶם – כָּךְ מִתְאַבֵּל עַל שְׁנִיִּים שֶׁלָּהֶם, דִּבְרֵי רַבִּי עֲקִיבָא. רַבִּי שִׁמְעוֹן בֶּן אֶלְעָזָר אוֹמֵר: אֵינוֹ מִתְאַבֵּל אֶלָּא עַל בֶּן בְּנוֹ וְעַל אֲבִי אָבִיו. וַחֲכָמִים אוֹמְרִים: כָּל שֶׁמִּתְאַבֵּל עָלָיו – מִתְאַבֵּל עִמּוֹ.

Just as one mourns for them, so too he mourns for their relatives’ relatives, who are his second-degree relatives. That is to say, just as one is required to mourn over his close relatives, so too he is required to mourn over his relatives’ close relatives, which are known as second-degree relatives. For example, if his father’s father, his son’s son, his brother’s son, or the like passed away, he must join his relatives in their mourning; this is the statement of Rabbi Akiva. Rabbi Shimon ben Elazar says: He mourns only over his son’s son and his father’s father, but not over the other relatives of his relatives. And the Rabbis say: Any relative over whom one would mourn if that person died, one mourns with him when he is in mourning.

חֲכָמִים הַיְינוּ תַּנָּא קַמָּא! אִיכָּא בֵּינַיְיהוּ עִמּוֹ בַּבַּיִת. כִּי הָא דַּאֲמַר לֵיהּ רַב לְחִיָּיא בְּרֵיהּ, וְכֵן אֲמַר לֵיהּ רַב הוּנָא לְרַבָּה בְּרֵיהּ: בְּאַפָּהּ – נְהוֹג אֲבֵילוּתָא; בְּלָא אַפָּהּ – לָא תִּינְהוֹג אֲבֵילוּתָא.

The Gemara asks: The statement of the Rabbis is identical to the statement of the first tanna , Rabbi Akiva. What does their statement add? The Gemara answers: The practical difference between them is with regard to whether one mourn with him only in the same house. According to the Rabbis, one is required to mourn with his relative only while he is with him in the same house, whereas according to Rabbi Akiva, he is required to observe mourning even when he is not with him. This is like what Rav said to his son, Ḥiyya, and it is similarly like what Rav Huna said to his son Rabba, when the latter’s wife was in mourning: In her presence practice mourning, but out of her presence do not practice mourning.

מָר עוּקְבָא שְׁכִיב לֵיהּ בַּר חֲמוּהּ. סָבַר לְמֵיתָב עֲלֵיהּ שִׁבְעָה וּשְׁלֹשִׁים. עָל רַב הוּנָא לְגַבֵּיהּ, אַשְׁכְּחֵיהּ. אֲמַר לֵיהּ: צוּדָנִיָּיתָא בָּעִית לְמֵיכַל? לֹא אָמְרוּ לִכְבוֹד אִשְׁתּוֹ אֶלָּא חָמִיו וַחֲמוֹתוֹ.

It is related that the son of Mar Ukva’s father-in-law, i.e., Mar Ukva’s brother-in-law, died, and Mar Ukva thought to sit in mourning over him for the seven- and thirty- day periods of mourning. Rav Huna went into his house, found him observing the rites of mourning, and said to him: Do you desire to eat mourners’ food [ tzudaniyyata ]? The Sages said that one should observe mourning in honor of his wife only when she is in mourning over the death of his father-in-law or his mother-in-law.

דְּתַנְיָא: מִי שֶׁמֵּת חָמִיו אוֹ חֲמוֹתוֹ – אֵינוֹ רַשַּׁאי לָכוֹף אֶת אִשְׁתּוֹ לִהְיוֹת כּוֹחֶלֶת וְלִהְיוֹת פּוֹקֶסֶת. אֶלָּא כּוֹפֶה מִטָּתוֹ, וְנוֹהֵג עִמָּהּ אֲבֵילוּת. וְכֵן הִיא שֶׁמֵּת חָמִיהָ אוֹ חֲמוֹתָהּ – אֵינָהּ רַשָּׁאָה לִהְיוֹת כּוֹחֶלֶת וְלִהְיוֹת פּוֹקֶסֶת, אֶלָּא כּוֹפָה מִטָּתָהּ וְנוֹהֶגֶת עִמּוֹ אֲבֵילוּת.

As it is taught in a baraita : One whose father-in-law or mother-in-law died may not force his wife to paint [ koḥelet ] her eyelids or put rouge [ pokeset ] Rather, he should overturn his bed, and observe the rites of mourning with her. And similarly, when her father-in-law or mother-in-law dies, she may not paint her eyelids or put rouge on her face. Rather, she should overturn her bed and practice the rites of mourning with him.

וְתַנְיָא אִידָךְ: אַף עַל פִּי שֶׁאָמְרוּ אֵינוֹ רַשַּׁאי לָכוֹף אֶת אִשְׁתּוֹ לִהְיוֹת כּוֹחֶלֶת וְלִהְיוֹת פּוֹקֶסֶת, בֶּאֱמֶת אָמְרוּ: מוֹזֶגֶת לוֹ אֶת הַכּוֹס, וּמַצַּעַת לוֹ מִטָּה, וּמְרַחֶצֶת לוֹ פָּנָיו יָדָיו וְרַגְלָיו. קָשְׁיָין אַהֲדָדֵי!

And it was taught in another baraita : Even though the Sages said that a husband may not force his wife to paint her eyelids or put rouge on her face when she is in mourning, i.e., that she may not treat her mourning lightly, actually, they said that she may pour his cup of wine, make his bed, and wash his face, hands, and feet, as these activities are expressions of affection between husband and wife rather than unnecessary adornment or a belittlement of the mourning. These two baraitot contradict each other: The first baraita indicates that the husband must practice the rites of mourning together with his wife, whereas the second one bars him only from forcing her to treat her own mourning lightly.

אֶלָּא לָאו שְׁמַע מִינָהּ: כָּאן – בְּחָמִיו וַחֲמוֹתוֹ, כָּאן – בִּשְׁאָר קְרוֹבִים? שְׁמַע מִינָהּ. תַּנְיָא נַמִי הָכִי: לֹא אָמְרוּ לִכְבוֹד אִשְׁתּוֹ – אֶלָּא חָמִיו וַחֲמוֹתוֹ בִּלְבַד.

Rather, must one not conclude from this as follows: Here, where one is required to observe the halakhot of mourning together with his wife, the baraita is referring to the death of his father-in-law or mother-in-law. There, where one is not required to mourn, the baraita is referring to the death of his wife’s other relatives for whom she is required to mourn. The Gemara summarizes: Conclude from this that this is the case. This is also taught in a baraita : The Sages said that one is required to observe the rites of mourning in honor of his wife only when she is in mourning over his father-in-law or his mother-in-law.

אַמֵימָר שְׁכֵיב לֵיהּ בַּר בְּרֵיהּ, קָרַע עִילָּוֵיהּ. אֲתָא בְּרֵיהּ – קָרַע בְּאַפֵּיהּ. אִידְכַּר דִּמְיוּשָּׁב קָרַע – קָם קָרַע מְעוּמָּד.

It was further related that the son of Ameimar’s son died, and Ameimar rent his garment over him. His son came before him, and he rent his garments again in the presence of his son, he remembered that when he rent his garments in his son’s presence he rent them while sitting, and therefore he stood up and rent his garment again while standing.

אֲמַר לֵיהּ רַב אַשִׁי לְאַמֵימַר: קְרִיעָה דִּמְעוּמָּד מְנָלַן? דִּכְתִיב: ״וַיָּקָם אִיּוֹב וַיִּקְרַע אֶת מְעִילוֹ״.

With regard to this issue, the Gemara reports that Rav Ashi said to Ameimar: From where do we derive that rending must be done while standing? He responded: As it is written about the deaths of Job’s sons: “Then Job arose, and rent his coat” (Job 1:20).